Practising mediation is taxing. It requires attentiveness to the conflict’s emotional depth, navigating legal complexities and attunement to power dynamics. Juggling these demands, while remaining self-aware, focusing on the present moment, and thinking about next steps, can strain both our mental faculties and emotional reserves. Practising without replenishing can lead to compassion fatigue, burnout and vicarious trauma. Technology and the constant flow of information and communication adds another layer of complexity.

Fortunately, there are many ways in which we can support longevity and joy in our mediation practice:

1. Self-care, Boundaries, and Time Management: This work is demanding, so prioritizing self-care is crucial for longevity in conflict resolution. Incorporate daily grounding practices like breathing exercises, regular breaks between meetings and walking outside. Weekly or monthly activities such as walks, hikes, spa treats or fun brunch dates can provide deeper revitalization. Establishing clear boundaries, such as not engaging with clients over the weekend, helps prevent burnout. Recognize the value of your time and avoid overcommitting! And while technology can aid in relaxation (mindfulness apps, music and fun distraction), be aware it can potentially exacerbate stress (endless scrolling or immediate responses to messages).
2. Resiliency: Resiliency is the ability to bounce back from setbacks, adapt to difficult situations and navigate obstacles without being overwhelmed or giving up. Sometimes, the unexpected happens — your new workplace is unexpectedly dysfunctional or even toxic, there are changes to your family structure, a dear friend needs your support. You find yourself in the midst of transition and change. Mediation is often a second career, often for lawyers transitioning away from litigating. When this happens, it’s crucial to pause, gather support, and determine what’s best for you. These situations serve as opportunities for growth and allow you to flex your resiliency muscles.
3. Self-compassion: Many of us in the “helping professions” are adept at practising compassion toward others, yet do not give that gift to ourselves. As lawyers we are trained to be critical and evaluative and as humans our brains are biased toward negativity (likely a survival mechanism that evolved to detect potential threats and dangers in the environment). Becoming aware of the systemic and individual contexts that shape us and choosing to practice being less self-critical and more kind to ourselves, can be life shifting. Consider finding support, such as like-minded friends and colleagues, support groups and counselling, to help cultivate self-compassion. Practice a little every day until it becomes easier. 

Taking the time to consciously build and practice these skills will help you cultivate a healthier relationship with yourself, your friends and family, and those your serve — ensuring your longevity and joy in conflict resolution!